A brutally honest guide to acting like a civilized human

You've already done this.

About 250 everyday behaviors, in the nine places we all end up sharing. A few minutes of reading each, and half a minute of video. No lectures. Just the moment, seen from the other seat.

Animated still: passengers crowd a closed boarding gate while the board says boarding in ten minutes
1.1 The Herd at the Gate · 30 s

The man three seats down is on speaker.

You know his sister's name now, and her opinion of his landlord. You read the same paragraph four times. You look up twice, meaningfully, and he doesn't notice either time.

An hour earlier, in the supermarket, you left your trolley across the aisle while you read the back of a jar. A woman with a basket waited behind it. She looked at the back of your head, meaningfully, twice.

You didn't notice either time.

This book is about both of those people. They are usually the same person.

Nine places

Arranged by place, because that is where it happens. Close to thirty pieces in each, one behavior apiece. Read them in any order.

  1. 1Flying and AirportsThe Herd at the Gate, The Recliner…
  2. 2On the RoadThe Silent Turner, The High-Beamer…
  3. 3Shops and FoodThe Aisle Blocker, The Finger-Snapper…
  4. 4Social SituationsThe Interrupter, The Story Topper…
  5. 5Digital LifeThe Reply-All Offender, The Voice-Note Marathoner…
  6. 6HealthcareThe Waiting-Room Broadcaster, The Pharmacy Queue Crowder…
  7. 7WorkThe Meeting Hijacker, The Desk Microwaver…
  8. 8Home and NeighborsThe Lift Rusher, The Hallway Noise-Maker…
  9. 9Leisure and Public SpaceThe Cinema Screen-Lighter, The Litterer…

Thirty seconds each.

Same small cast, a familiar place, no narration. Made to be sent to the person you were thinking of.

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Start with the gate.

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